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The #BodyBuilding Life – Finding balance

I’ve shared my thoughts and experiences on things ranging from weight training, dieting, and posing to clothing trends in the gym and dealing with defeat.

I’d like to discuss today the hardest aspect of the bodybuilding lifestyle – establishing and maintaining a balanced life.  My bodybuilding journey is a full-time focus, really a full-time job if you will that requires me to schedule all things around my training sessions and eating regimen.

Of course, like everyone else in the world I have family, friends and work that play a role in my daily life.  My drive and focus to take my body to the limit and achieve that coveted IFBB Pro card are unquestionable and because of that, I sacrifice my comfort and sometimes it feels like my sanity to fit it all in.  Finding the balance to pursue my passion, my heart’s desire, my dream and not lose touch with my kids, my family and friends along the way as well as work are my daily struggles.

I’m blessed to have a family that supports my vision and affords me the flexibility and understanding to schedule most things around my training and eating.  I’m also extremely lucky to have a group of friends that support my journey and are happy to consider us killing it in the gym time well spent together.

As focused and driven as I am, my kids are the pulse to which my heart beats and are the only thing that could ever derail this train that I am on, for my being there for them and being the very best father possible is of course the most important journey of all.  I’d like to think that I’m Superman and balance everything wonderfully, but I do have to say that I worry over my children every night and question whether my dream prevents me from being there for them as much as I should.

But my kids are amazing and take pride in my journey as well, which has given me the motivation and strength to push past that moment of doubt and drive onward which I do with the comfort of knowing that they will at least have a positive example of the drive, dedication and never-quit attitude for them to go out into the world and achieve anything they set their minds to.

My previous articles have pretty much been exclusively about the bodybuilding journey, but I wanted to take this opportunity and share with you the aspect of my life that I have in common with everyone else in this world.  We all have busy lives and so many struggles and distractions that come into our paths on a daily basis that makes us feel like we are standing on one foot performing a juggling act while carrying the world on our shoulders.

I’ve personally asked myself: Really, what next? I don’t think I can take one more thing.

But just like my bodybuilding journey where I push and pull to find the perfect combination and balance of things to achieve what I’m looking for, my whole life is a balancing act where I strive to be the best I can be and get it all in.  I encourage you all to remember that balance is key and that you are not alone in your struggles.  If you have a story of a struggle or balancing act you’d like to share please send it to me as I’d love to hear from you and share your story.


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  1. Great article brother. We all have our own struggle with balancing our personal lives and gym lives. It’s key to always remember that no matter what the goal is that family comes first.
    I have made that mistake in the past and became so caught up in my journey that I lost sight of what’s most important to me. Something that I vowed to never do again. I appreciate your insight on your own personal journey in this article and hope others can use this to not make the same mistakes me and I’m sure many others have in the past. Thanks for putting this together for us and best of luck with your pursuit of that Pro Card!

    • Tanks for your comment Danny. Ferlan says: Danny, I think we have all made that mistake my friend. It only took once and hearing my daughter say “We need a daddy daughter day after your competition because we have not done anything lately.”
      That struck me hard hearing and seeing the look on my prized possession’s face. Nothing is more important that you should miss out on your children’s most precious years or doing things with your loved ones.

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